Emotions that I have had to deal with this past week just seem to surprise me. I am 32 years old today, 32 do you believe it? I don’t.
My birthday week is always filled with lots of fun stuff but this time it is different, more subtle or even selfish. Last year at this exact time, I was jobless but sure of myself. Alone but happy, asleep but unsettled, this year has me feeling like it’s time to write again.
So here goes nothing, I am winging it this year, borrowing a lot of wisdom from those who have walked this street before me.
1. “Let go of what does not serve you” is a motto to live by. Relationships, careers, habits, ideas, etc. As hard as it is to let go, there’s something better waiting, and you’ll never find it if you don’t let go of what’s holding you back.
2. Judgement is an inner reflection. People that judge you are really just judging themselves. Same goes for you, too. If you’re judging someone, look inwards.
3. Your real friends know everything about you and still love you. And most importantly, they love you and want you to live an amazing, abundant life.
4. Karma is real. Treat people well. It will always come back to you.
5. Relationships are a wild ride. And so, so worth it if you’re with the right person so or absolutely fucked up if you meet the wrong one.
5b. I am currently having the time of my life getting to know you stranger.
6. Women turn into their mothers and men turn into their fathers. It’s just true. (In my case I think this is a 60-percent good thing — love you, Mom!)
7. Ladies you are just as responsible as he is of the outcome of your encounters. I find some of the millennials I meet so sexually aware than I was at their age but very reckless while at it.
8. We all believe in something so put some respeck I whatever your neighbors believe.*Didn’t misspell respect.
9. Surround yourself with people who love you and want you to be happy. Not the ones that are miserable and want you to be miserable.
10. Fear must be conquered. You’ll always be afraid of something, so you might as well get over it and move onto the next thing. You are not “loose”, just call him up, it’s either a hit or miss.
11. Phenomenal business aren’t built on ideas and visions. They’re built on action and good old-fashion hard work. Don’t get me wrong, stellar ideas and visions are important, but lots of people have them. Executing them is the challenge.
12. The differences in people’s thoughts, opinions and ideas is what drives innovation and makes the world go round.
13. Competition drives the market, plain and simple. Embrace it. The world is abundant and there is enough to go around.
14. Don’t “what-if” yourself to death. Our minds can make up stories and “what-if” us into never taking action. Give your choices careful consideration, but let life play itself out. If something doesn’t work out, who cares? At least you tried.
15. Money truly does not buy happiness, but it can make your life a little more comfortable.
16. Wealth is dependent on the point of view of the person that has it.
17. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to make a great income and have nice things. There is something wrong with not being grateful for what you have and the luxuries you can afford. Be grateful. Did I mention humility? Be humble, bitch please, sit down.
18. Men and women think differently. Learning to communicate in the opposite sex’s language is essential for relationship success. It goes both ways.
19. Family time should be cherished and held near and dear to my heart.
20. Good manners are one of your best assets.
20b. It’s rude to accept calls, texts or let passers-by interrupt and/or intrude on your conversation. More human contact.
21. World travel is amazing and necessary, but there really is no place like home.
22. Pets make people happier — it’s scientifically proven.
23. Women and men are equal but different beings. I can be traditional and a feminist at the same time.
24. Success isn’t age dependent. We can learn from people of all ages. Don’t discredit people that you might think are too young or too old to “get” you.
25. Living in gratitude for the things you already have is the first step to happiness. This goes for physical, spiritual and relationship matters.
26. Catty women have deep issues. Don’t let their misery bring you down. Bless and release them.
27. Education goes so far beyond academia. Find topics you’re passionate about and immerse yourself in them. Never stop learning.
28. Know your strengths and weaknesses. I’m very athletic, working out is very important especially if I have to keep looking 16.
29. Women get better in their 30s (and beyond) and I would know. Have you met me? *Humility *I’m going to make 29 an exceptional year and send off my 20s in happiness and health.
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30. Relationships translate to connection and connection is the meaning of life.
Not to get too deep on you, but I really think I’ve found the meaning of life (drops the mic, exits stage left). Your happiness equates in direct proportion to the health of your relationships. Work on them constantly.
31. It’s actually possible to turn your big dreams into actionable goals and create the life you want on your own terms.
We really do get exactly what we ask (God and the universe) for. It might just come in a different form than expected. Embrace all of it. When life doesn’t go your way, take a step back and ask, “Is this even better?” It probably is.
32. I feel younger in spirit at 32 than I did at 25, which is really freaking exciting.
“Hmm,” I thought. “Maybe it’s confidence. Yes, confidence is a big piece of it. Maybe it’s just more life experience and learning not to take things so seriously. Or realizing that there is still so much life to live. Or feeling established. Or having great relationships that have had time to grow. I’m not exactly sure. I just feel it and it’s AWESOME.”
It makes me laugh. I felt so adult in my mid 20s, which I’m grateful for because I’m sure it propelled me to where I am today. But at 32, I can wholeheartedly say I feel much freer and younger in mind, body and spirit.
I hope this post made you think, smile, and remember all of the things you’d like to tell yourself on your birthday. Elizabeth Rider, you made this super appealing so I borrowed a lot. Many thanks.